Sunday, April 28, 2019

Family Matters 1: Responding vs. Reacting


April 28, 2019               NOTES NOT EDITED
Family Matters:  Responding vs. Reacting
Psalm 37:1-11

SIS: Building strong, godly families requires learning how to respond to God during difficult times.

One thing you can count on about trouble in this life is that you can count on having trouble in this life.  Jesus said this, Himself

Jn. 16:33  I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world.”

Jesus warns us that trouble cannot be avoided, but it can be overcome—in fact, Jesus already conquered it for us!  We simply need to trust Him and learn how to respond to God through the Holy Spirit when we face difficult moments in life.  Trust is something we talk a lot about as Christians, but we fail to practice very well.  We tend to “think too small” when it comes to trusting God.

I hear people talk about trusting God all the time, but that generally means trusting God as long as it is “not too big a thing.”  Len Sullivan was a preacher from Tupelo, Mississippi, to Saskatchewan, Canada to start a church.  He ran a little fixit shop in town to help pay the bills.  People would bring him all kinds of stuff to fix from appliances to family treasures.  It was the mid 80’s and the economy in the small Canadian town was not great.  Sullivan’s little church received a small monthly assistance from a local mission, but most months were financially difficult.  Pastor Sullivan did what he had to do to make ends meet.  One week in April, with the ground still frozen and the air outside bitter cold, the Sullivans were down to a few dollars in the bank.  Pastor Sullivan’s normal approach to this common condition would be to look for his own solution.  This time, in a moment of either desperation or deep faith (he wasn’t sure, himself), he decided to fully trust God.  Pastor Sullivan prayed, “Dear Lord, all we need is a gallon of milk, a dozen eggs, and a loaf of bread.”  He said Amen and went to his little fixit shop in town.  That afternoon a man came in to ask him to fix a leaky teakettle.  The teakettle could have been easily replaced with a new one, but the man said, “It belonged to my mother and is very special to me.  Please fix it?”  Pastor Sullivan fixed the kettle, free of charge.  The man insisted the Pastor take $10 for his efforts which Pastor Sullivan accepted graciously.  On the way home, Pastor Sullivan stopped at the corner grocery store and bought a gallon of milk, a dozen eggs and a loaf of bread.  The cost, $10.  Pastor Sullivan left that store with a sense of pride in his decision to “trust the Lord fully.”  In his prayers that night, Pastor Sullivan thanked God for providing for his family’s needs.  The answer he seemed to hear from the Lord burst Pastor Sullivan’s “bubble of pride.”  The Lord seemed to say, “Don’t you wish now you would have ask for a side of beef?”

Over the last forty plus years of ministry, I have watched the American family slowing disintegrate.  Look around any typical church in America and you will notice something missing—multi-generational congregations.  The “nuclear” family has literally exploded.  Many graduating seniors can’t wait to graduate and leave home, and sadly, leave the church.  The American Christian family has been the primary target in the Devil’s war against Christ, and the Devil has won many battles.

I want to “think bigger” about trusting God to help our church support the building of solid churches through these shaky times.

The Bible is full of wise counsel in how to build strong families.  The Jewish family has remained strong even though they have endured persecution like no other group throughout history.  The Jewish family revolved around the Torah, or the Law of God.  We’d refer to it as the Word of God.  Psalm 37 is one example in the O.T. of how to build solid families through shaky times.  Let’s read  it together:

Do  not be agitated by evildoers; do not envy those who do wrong.  For they wither quickly like grass and wilt like tender green plants. Trust in the Lord and do what is good; dwell in the land and live securely.  f4 Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart’s desires. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will act, making your righteousness shine like the dawn, your justice like the noonday. Be silent before the Lord and wait expectantly for Him; do not be agitated by one who prospers in his way, by the man who carries out evil plans. Refrain from anger and give up your rage; do not be agitated—it can only bring harm. For evildoers will be destroyed, but those who put their hope in the Lord will inherit the land. 10 A little while, and the wicked person will be no more; though you look for him, he will not be there. 11 But the humble will inherit the land and will enjoy abundant prosperity.

Let me note that this is a particular type of Psalm called an “acrostic.”  An acrostic is a word build by the first letters of several words.  Scuba is an acrostic, for example, meaning Self Contained Underwater Breathing Apparatus. 

In Psalm 37, the first verse begins with the first letter of the Hebrew alphabet, aleph.  Two verses go together under each letter of the alphabet, with the exception of a couple of places where three verses are grouped under one letter of the alphabet until all the letters are used.

This would make Psalm 37 easy to learn and the put into everyday practice. Since we don’t speak Hebrew, we will not be able to use this same “memory device.”  So, I am going to break down the first 11 verses in a three-part strategy for responding positively to God when we face difficult times, instead of reacting negatively to the situation.

Remember, I have told you before that “responding is positive and a reaction is negative,” as with the medicines we take to overcome illness.

An overcoming strategy includes Guarding Against False Solutions, Getting In Step With Almighty God, and Gaining Confidence By Knowing the Promises of God.

1.  Guarding Against False Solutions (v1)
Do not be agitated by evildoers; do not envy those who do wrong. For they wither quickly like grass and wilt like tender green plants.

Verse 1 warns us against a “negative reaction” that focuses on our situation, instead of our Savior.  It is “natural” to react to trouble.  When we touch something hot, we pull back and may even scream.  That’s the “natural” reaction.  You have probably heard someone give someone else the advice, “Just do what comes naturally.”  That’s about the worse “reaction” to difficulty you could have.  The natural man does not possess the ability to do what’s right. 

Verse 1 is a warning about reacting to your problem emotionally. Our emotions lead us to “false solutions,” that may make us feel better initially but, in fact, make the situation worse in the long run. 

The CSB describes reacting negatively to trouble as, becoming “agitated.” Other translations use the words “do not fret (ESV)”; or “do not worry (NLT).”  Literally it says, “do not burn.”  The idea is one of getting angry.  In other words, “don’t react negatively.”  The construction of the verb in this opening phrase does not refer to the “normal emotional reaction to an adverse situation” like I said earlier about reacting to touching something hot.  This verb form is an “intensive” form, referring to a heightened or prolonged reaction.  It is also “reflexive” (hithpael) meaning the one causing the reaction is one’s self.  Reacting according to our natural instincts causes us to surrender control to our situation.  When we react to our situation instead of responding to our Savior, we are no longer in control of our actions, but we submit to the control by external factors.  We let our situation dictate our actions, rather than the Holy Spirit.  This puts us on a path to settle on “false solutions” to our problems instead of God’s solution.

This usually leads us to the oldest “false solution” in the world, blaming someone else!  The blame game empowers our problem and exacerbates our troubles.  We cannot fix the problem if all we do is try to fix the blame.  Notice this is what the Psalm warns against in vs 1:

do not envy those who do wrong. For they wither quickly like grass and wilt like tender green plants.

Many times, oftentimes, other people may be the cause of our present difficulties; but, we cannot fix other people.  We must surrender, that is respond, to the Savior and let Him fix our problem.  Anything we try do in our own flesh, without seeking the guidance of the Holy Spirit, will be a “false solution” and leave us worse off than if we had done nothing.

False solutions put all the emphasis on the problem, to such an extent that all we can see is the problem.  Take riding a bike for example.  If you are riding a bicycle and suddenly you see something in front of you so that you don’t have time to stop, if you keep focused on that obstacle, you will hit it every time.  The key is to focus beyond the problem to the solution.  It does not good to curse the darkness—you must learn to light a candle.  The way you light a candle when you are surrounded by darkness is to pray!  Prayer focuses your attention on the Savior—Our Solution—rather than the problem.

Years ago I heard someone say, “prayer must be our first response, not our last resort.”  Trouble activates our “natural instincts” for self-preservation—that usually results in panic.  We need to guard against this natural instinct which leads to false solutions.  Our first response to trouble should be to “seek the Lord in prayer.”  This is something we must do ourselves (hithpael stem, instensive and reflexive).  When we focus on the Savior, we guard against false solutions to our problems.

2.  GETTING In Step With God (3-7)

Prayer is the first step in getting in step with God, but we must go further to become “more than conquerors through Christ Jesus Our Lord” (Rom. 8:37). There are four essential aspects to Getting In Step with God.  NUMBER 1 is learning to “trust God.”

We spoke about “trusting God” a few minutes ago.  We learned that when it comes to trusting God, we often “think too small.”  We don’t fully trust in God and so we do not fully overcome our difficulties.  Parents must start very early in a child’s life teaching them how to make trusting God a common experience in life.  Notice verse 3:

Trust in the Lord and do what is good.  Notice the connection between trusting the Lord and “doing what is good.”  Without learning to trust the Lord, we are back to trusting false solutions.  But, notice in your Bible (most modern translations) that the word, “LORD,” is in all “capital” letters.  This means that the verse is referring to God’s personal name, or covenant name, YAHWEH.  When are families are in trouble, we don’t need a “good idea,” we need a Powerful Person.  All the doctrine in the world will not help us if we are not in “step with Almighty God.”  When you a drowning in the ocean you don’t need to learn the principle of buoyancy.  You need a “Lifeguard!” 

Our trust is not in an idea—our trust is in a Person—Yahweh.  Yahweh is the name God gave to Moses when Moses needed encouragement to speak to Pharaoh, telling Pharaoh to let the Jewish slaves go free. Moses did not go to Pharaoh with confidence in a clever idea, but with the full assurance that Yahweh, Almighty God, the Great “I Am,” was going to deliver Him.  God did not let Moses down, and God will not let you or your family down—not now, not ever! 

So, Getting In Step With God begins by realizing Who He is and what He is like.  Yahweh is our Deliverer.  Yahweh is our Provider.  Yahweh is our Healer.  Yahweh is All-Powerful.  Yahweh is All-Good.  Yahweh is All-knowing.  Yahweh is Everywhere All the Time.  In our darkness, Yahweh is the Light.  In our hunger, Yahweh is the Bread of Life.  In our thirst, Yahweh is the Living Water.  When difficulty has slammed closed the door of our progress, Yahweh is our Door.  When we Get In Step With Yahweh, we can never be overcome.  Getting in step with Yahweh means we become partners with Almighty God. 

Journalist and award-winning writer, Leo Strobel, wrote:  “Suffering is not an abstract idea. What is needed is not a tightly woven philosophical argument, but a person—The Person.  The answer must be someone not just something.”

But, how do we make trusting Yahweh more than just a nice Sunday School lesson?  The Psalmist gives us three additional steps to take beyond trusting Him as a person in order to get in step with Him as the solution to our situations.

Second, we must “take delight in the Lord” (v4).  This word is an interesting one.  It can mean, “be dainty,” as someone accustomed to living the “good life.”  The related Samaritan word means, “to enjoy oneself.” An Arabic word strongly related to this word means, “to make a fuss over.”  The idea of delight is hard to express in words, but we know it when we see it, or taste it.

Imagine your favorite desert.  Could you imagine just taking one bite, and then pushing it aside?  Of course not, there are some deserts, like at the Cheesecake Factory, that are almost a religious experience in themselves.  When we have our favorite desert, we “gorge ourselves” until we have had more than we needed. 

That’s what it means to “delight in the Lord.”  We gorge ourselves with His grace and love.  We just can’t get enough.  We make a “fuss about the Lord.”  Getting In Step With Almighty God means we must desire Him above anything or anybody else.

Third, Getting In Step With Almighty God means we “Commit our lives to Him.” Verse 5 tells us, 
Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will act.   Commitment is an “all or nothing proposition:  if it ain’t all, it ain’t nothing.   We must give Yahweh everything we have—the good, the bad, and the ugly.  Commitment means we literally, “roll the full load of our lives onto the back of Jesus.”  The original word here for “commit” was used in reference to a camel kneeling down why Bedouin camel drivers would roll supplies onto the camel’s back.  If we are ever going to Get In Step With Almighty God, we must give the Lord “everything,” not just a little here and a little there.  Families are literally being destroyed because they have “just enough religion.”  Just enough is not enough to be “more than conquerors through Christ Jesus Our Lord.”  Real victory requires real commitment.

Fourth, Verse 7 tells us that to Get In Touch With Almighty God, especially during times of family troubles, we must “rest and wait for Him to act.”  Resting and waiting on the Lord is essential to building solid families in a shaky world.  If we do not rest and wait, we add full to the fire.  We create additional noise that makes it hard to hear God’s voice with all the clamor of the chaos of our circumstances.  Resting does not mean we do NOTHING, but it means we do nothing UNTIL we are confident God has heard our prayer and has a plan for our situation.  Resting and Waiting means we don’t add full to the fire or useless noise to the situation.

Building Solid Families In A Shaky world means we must first GUARD Against False Solutions.  This requires we respond first by prayer.  Second, we must GET In Touch With Almighty God, trusting Who He is, Delighting in His Presence, Committing Ourselves fully to Him, and then Resting and Waiting for Him to act.  Third, responding to God means

3.  GAINING Confidence Through Knowing His Promises (3-5)

Look back again at verses 3-5.  Each verse contains a promise.  Verse 3 says we will:  “Dwell in the land securely.” Verse 4 reminds us “He will give us our heart’s desires.”  Verse 5 adds, “He WILL act.”   The KJV translates this, “He will bring it to pass.” 

One of the hardest parts of going through a difficulty in a family, or our personal lives for that matter, is not knowing how the situation is going to end.  It is the “not knowing” that creates such a deep anxiety, at least that is how it has been for me.  These verses highlight the encouragement we get from knowing God’s promises.    In verse 3, God promises to give us “security.” The entire world may be in chaos, and it pretty much is at this time, but we do not trust in this world, but our security comes from our trust in the One Who Created This World.  In Verse 4 God promises to give us “joy” by fulfilling all our desires—not just our basic needs, but also our deepest desires. Our joy is not dependent upon our circumstances, but is guaranteed by God’s promise.  Finally, verse 5 promises us “hope.” Of all God’s promises, perhaps hope is the most important.  Hope reminds us that the end of the story has already been written by God—AND WE WIN.  Even in times of great turmoil we experience security, joy, and most of all hope, because we have confidence in the promises of God. 

I read the other day about sports fan who had an unusual habit when watching T.V.  He worked when most sporting events were played on T.V. so he recorded them to watch when he got home.  After work, he’d come home, turn on the recorder to watch his favorite team.  He didn’t start at the beginning, however.  He would fast forward to the end to see if his favorite team won or lost.  If his team lost, he’d usually watch something else.  But, if his team won, he would rewind the tape to the beginning, break out the snacks, and sit in his favorite chair to watch the entire game.  His friends would often comment that this couldn’t be much fun, knowing who was going to win the game ahead of time.  The man would reply, “I love it.  No matter how bad the game may get for my team, I don’t have to worry because I know the end of the story.”  This guy’s TV watching habits illustrate the essence of trusting the God Who makes promises.  No matter how bad things get in life, we can live with courage and confidence because we “know how the story is going to end.”  As Paul said, “We are more than conquerors through Him who loved us”  (Rom. 8:37).  The full quote says,

37 No, in all these things we are more than victorious through Him who loved us. 38 For I am persuaded that not even death or life, angels or rulers, things present or things to come, hostile powers, 39 height or depth, or any other created thing will have the power to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

We are living in “shaky” times to be sure.  We can, however, build solid, Christ-honoring families if we learn how to “respond to Our Lord instead of reacting to our circumstances.”  GUARD Against False Solutions, Get In Step With Almighty God, and Gain Confidence Through Knowing His Promises and you can “build a solid family in a shaky world.”

No comments:

Post a Comment

Note: Only a member of this blog may post a comment.