June 19, 2022 NOTES
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Google Search: The Model Father
Matthew 6:9-15
SIS: The model prayer of Jesus
reveals the characteristics of the Model Father.
Raise your hand if you have heard the term, “Toxic Masculinity.” As I expected, most of you have heard the
term. Anything “toxic” is bad by definition. Some people may be confused by the term,
“Toxic Masculinity” however. It does NOT mean, some masculinity is good
but some is toxic. No, no, no. It means, “being a man is bad.”
We have come to a place where society now defines a “manly man” as a “bad
man.” We now live in a society where women can be “husbands” and men
can be “wives.” Is that just not
so insane as to be utterly evil? Yes it is.
So, we live in a nation where manhood is bad and therefore
“fatherhood” is extremely damaged or missing altogether. We live in a nation where a present sitting Supreme Court Justice
said, “I cannot define what a woman is.”
Again, that is so insane that it can only be considered utterly evil.
So, if manhood is bad and masculinity is toxic, celebrating
Father’s Day seems a bit out of place. For
a vast majority of children in America today, they grow up in a home where
there is no father. For another very large majority the Fathers
in homes lack basic masculinity.
Children need manly men as
Fathers. That is about as politically incorrect a statement as
any that I could make. However, it is
true. In a article by a leading
professor in an Ivy League School, little boys learn how to be gentle by
“wrestling and rough-housing with their fathers.” That sounds backwards at first. But, by rough-housing with fathers, little
boys learn limits and when they have crossed the line. Who would have thought that being manly means
you have learned the limits of proper social interaction.
We know this is true by the statistics of how much violence there
is in communities such as Chicago where children, especially little boys, grow
up without fathers.
We read earlier a portion of Scripture called, The Model
Prayer. In it we are introduced to the Model Father, Our
Heavenly Father. This text shows us at
least five significant characteristics of a Model Father.
1. A Model Father is a “POINTER.” (9-11a)
If you grew up where they hunt ducks or shoot quail, you probably
get the image of a dog,
one leg up, nose straight standing like a statue. He is pointing out for his master where the
birds are. Many dog breeds can be used
as “Pointers.”
A Model Father is a “pointer.”
He points his family, particularly his children toward heaven, and the Heavenly
Father. A Model Father creates an
environment where the Heavenly Father’s name (character, person) is honored on
the lips of his children and where building the Kingdom of God is the driving
force of the family. A Model Father
creates an attitude of
reverence in his children always pointing them toward heavenly goals and
godly attitudes.
In verses 9-10, the introduction to the Model Prayer,
the focus is on the Heavenly Father. Three verbs are used to outline
how we should view and address God, the Father.
The verbs, “honor, come, and done,” are formed grammatically to
demonstrate utmost urgency
and care in addressing God.
Utmost respect. The verbs all
come first in each of the three phrases, further stressing the utmost respect
for God, the Father. Literally the
verses say: “be honored your name; come now your
kingdom; and be done your will.”
Being a “model father” is all about pointing your family and others,
consistently and continually upward toward God in heaven.
2. A Model Father is a “PROVIDER” (11b)
Now, it looks like what a Model Father provides is rather meager: nothing
but “bread.” However, the word bread
hear is a figure of speech a part stands for the whole (synecdoche). Part of the daily subsistence, especially in
the days of Jesus, was bread. It is the basic
staple on any table.
Here, “daily bread” stands for all the needs of life: physical, emotional, and most of all
spiritual. Jesus explained this when He
said, “Man cannot live by bread, that is physical bread, alone but needs also spiritual
bread, or the Word of God.”
Far too many homes are malnourished emotionally and spiritually because even
though the father may be a great provider physically. It is simply not enough to provide for a family’s physical needs
and neglect the emotional and especially, the spiritual needs. When I was a child, most fathers in my town
were adequate when it came to bringing home the bacon but complete failures at
taking children to church. A Model
Father is a provider: physically,
emotionally, and spiritually.
3. The Model Father is a FORGIVER (12, 14-15)
This is a biggy
when it comes to being a Model Father—I mean a really big deal. We know this is really important because
Jesus mentions it in verse 12, but after he ends the Model Prayer
in verse 13, the Lord adds an appendix in verses 14 and 15 expounding
on forgiveness. Forgiveness is the very foundation of all human
relationships, including our relationship with the Heavenly Father.
All of God’s goodness to us flows from the faucet of His forgiveness. The flow of forgiveness is a picture showing
four significant aspects of forgiveness that allow us to live whole, healthy,
godly lives with freedom,
boldness, and confidence. The
flow of God’s forgiveness begins with God forgiving us. The forgiveness we receive from God allows, even requires, we forgive others. That entails that others forgive us. Without
this flow of forgiveness from God to us and between ourselves and others, there
is no foundation for any healthy relationships.
And, finally, in order for forgiveness to set us free we must learn to forgive ourselves (Rom.
8:1). At any point in this flow of forgiveness a pipe can break or a
clog develop and relationships wills suffer.
That includes a Father’s relationship with his family. There must be a continuous flow of
forgiveness. Children will especially test the limits of a
Father’s forgiveness. Keep the faucet of
forgiveness fully open.
4. A Model Father is LEADER (13a)
Earlier I spoke of the Model Father as being POINTER, constantly
redirecting the focus of the family upward to God. But, being a pointer is related to being a LEADER
and vice versa. A sign can point the way,
but it is insufficient to actually map out the specifics of the route.
The word translated “lead” (KJV, NASB) or “bring” (CSB) means to act in a way to secure the desired
result or condition. It is more than
simply “pointing the way,” but it is providing leadership instructions or a detailed map of how
to get there. The force of this verse
means,
“Do not allow us to yield to temptation, but give
us clear instructions on how to avoid it.”
Leadership is required to show children “how to avoid temptations” and exactly how
to pursue godliness. A Model Father
should constantly point to
the need of prayer, for example, but should also lead the way by
teaching his children exactly
how to pray. This same necessity
of leadership is important in every aspect of life from prayer to how to do
basic plumbing. Children need leadership. Telling a child what is expected without leading them and providing the
skills to do what is expected with lead to strife and even rebellion.
I’ve mentioned before that many of my relative living out on the ridges and
rolling hills outside of town did not have indoor plumbing in the early
days. They had a “one-hole outhouse.” I’ll let your own imagination supply the
images and smells. While all the
outhouses that I knew of, or ever used (which required the most extreme of
emergencies if you know what I mean), all were “one-holers.”
This is not only true of outhouses, but also of thrones.
All thrones were one-seaters. There
has to be a place in every organization, including the family, where the buck
stops. Every family needs a single leader and that
leader has to be the Father for a family to run effectively. The Model Father
leads his family as he is following God.
5. The Model Father is a PROTECTOR (13b)
The word translated “deliver” (ῥῦσαι rhusai rῡ-say) has a very
broad range of meaning in the original language. It can mean, “to guard, protect, support, defend, repel” (an attack).”
The idea is one of complete “protection,” both preemptive and redemptive. A Father’s primary duty is to stand guard at
the door of his family, and should one of his own fall into calamity, it is the
father’s duty to “rescue” that child.
With so many father’s either absent from the American family or
apathetic to their role as the “Protector,” the door to the sheepfold is unattended and the ravaging
wolves of society is devouring our family.
The Model Father is the “pastor, or shepherd of the family” under the Lordship of
Christ. The primary protector of the
family throughout the history of God’s redemptive story were not the priests or
preachers but the parent, and first and foremost the father. The Book of Deuteronomy sets forth the
primacy of the Father as the Protecting Shepherd of the hearts, minds, and
lives of children:
Deuteronomy 6:6–9 (CSB) 6 These words that I am giving you today are to be in your
heart. 7 Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you
sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when
you get up. 8 Bind them as a sign on your hand and let them be a symbol
on your forehead. 9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your city gates.
The Father is the one given the ultimate responsibility to
“Protect” the hearts and minds of the children by repeating God’s Word, talking
about God’s Word, and even binding God’s Word physically to his body as a
constant reminder like the
bumpers on freeway lanes that remind us to stay in the safety or our own
lane.
But, notice especially that phrase, “Write
them on the doorposts of your house.” This is
reminiscent of that fateful night when God sent the Death Angel throughout Egypt as the Tenth
Plague, which would take the life of every first-born child. God had instructed the people to sacrifice a
lamb and brush the
doorposts of the house with the blood.
In every house where the doorpost was covered in blood, the Death Angel
would “pass over”
and no death would come to that house.
There is much death among the youth in our society
from drugs to
school shootings to
suicide. The nation is in chaos. Why? To a very large degree the
responsibility lies at the feet of Fathers.
We have abdicated our duty as the Protector of our family and have not
covered the doorposts of our homes with the blood of Jesus. We have sent our children to church for the pastor and Sunday School
teachers to teach them, instead of accepting our responsibility for their
hearts, minds, and bodies from the ravages of the Death Angel of sin.
The Model Father is represented
clearly in Scripture, and specifically here in the model prayer. The Model Father is Yahweh,
God Almighty. Yahweh, the Holy God of
Scripture, is PROVIDER,
FORGIVER, LEADER, AND PROTECTOR.
As godly Fathers, we need to follow the Heavenly Fathers model pointing
our families toward Him each day, every day, all day long.
The game of life is stacked against children today in
a way it has never been in history.
Children need the guidance of godly fathers.
We live in a world that is in very, very, very bad shape. I know there have been “doom and gloom”
preachers since the beginning of time. I
know that it is common for generations to feel that they are living through the
worst time in human history. I’m sure my
grandparents and parents felt that way living through the Great
Depression. But, I am not making my
evaluation we are in the worst days of human history based upon economic or
even social conditions. I’m making it based upon the “collapse of fatherhood.” Without the moral leadership of godly fathers
the nation is doomed. Mothers, as
wonderful as they are cannot carry the weight of the world. We need fathers who can coach their children
into becoming all that God intends for them to be. Fathers alone can provide this needed
coaching for children to be successful in the game of life.
One of my favorite stories is about a high school
football game. A few years ago two rival
high school football teams were locked in combat in the final championship game. Each team’s reputation was on the line. The home team was backed up to its own 3 yard line with time
running out. The score was tied. On the next play, the first string quarterback was sacked at the
line of scrimmage. Worse yet, his ankle
was sprained. The second string quarterback
was out with the flu. The coach had no
choice but to play a freshman
quarterback who had never been in a high school game. The coach hoped that he could keep the game
tied, and the first string
quarterback could go back in the game during overtime, and save the home
team’s reputation. He sent the rookie
into the game with explicit instructions.
The coach said, “Run
22-e twice, and then punt.” The
coach did not want to take the chance of giving the other team the ball with
time left for a possible score. So, in
goes the rookie. He calls “22-e.” The team runs the play and to the surprise of
everyone they gained 45
yards. They were now on the 48 yard line. In the huddle, the rookie quarterback follows
his coaches orders and calls 22-e. This
time the team gains 49
yards. It is last down. One second remains on the timer. They are on the 3 yard line. This would be their last play. The rookie follows orders. He takes the snap, drops back, and punts the ball into
the end zone. The game ends in a tie. The team will go on to lose in overtime.
When the rookie comes off the field
after punting from the 3 yard line, the coach is red with rage. The rookie could not understand it. He followed the coaches orders to the
letter. Barely able to talk the coach stammers, “Son,
what in the world was going through your mind on that last play?” The rookie quarterback answered, “The only
thing going through my mind was, ‘man do we ever have a dumb
coach!”
Be
a Model Coach. Be a Model Father.