June 16, 2019 NOTES NOT EDITED
The World Needs Better Coaches
Deuteronomy 6:1-10
SIS: As men, we need to become Godly leaders in
our homes, our churches, and our world taking great care to pass on godly
devotion and skills to the next generation.
NOTE: This message still applies to you even if you
do not have children of your own or if your children are grown. Or, if you are
a single Mom
My kids always get me a gift for Father’s Day, or even several. Last year, I told them, “Buy me a gift that
everyone in the family can get something out of it.” They bought me a new wallet!
The Bible tells us that we must “honor our
fathers and mothers.” (Deu.
5:16). That means we love them, respect
them, and even care for them as the need arises. I remember a LITTLE BOY named
Michael. He was about six years old, but
even at that young age he felt he needed to love and care for his father. They were eating dinner one night and Michael
said, “Daddy, is it OK to eat bugs?” Dad
replied, “Michael, that is not appropriate talk for the dinner table.” Michael simply nodded and said, “OK Daddy.” After dinner the family was sitting in the
living room watching T.V. The Dad said, “Now,
Michael, what did you want to ask me about at the dinner table.” Michael nodded again and said with childish
purity, “Oh, never mind Dad. There WAS a
bug in your soup, but it is gone now!”
Maybe father’s ought to listen a little more closely to our children.
Maybe father’s ought to listen a little more closely to our children.
The key to America’s
future is the traditional family, and the key to the traditional family is —
DAD!
The Bible shows us
how men can be better coaches:
(Deu 6:1-9) These are the
commands, decrees and laws the LORD your God directed me to teach you to
observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, {2} so that
you, your children and their children after them may fear the LORD your God as
long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and
so that you may enjoy long life. {3} Hear, O Israel, and be careful to obey so
that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land
flowing with milk and honey, just as the LORD, the God of your fathers,
promised you. {4} HEAR, O ISRAEL: THE LORD OUR GOD, THE LORD IS ONE. {5} Love
the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your
strength. {6} These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your
hearts. {7} Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home
and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. {8}
Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. {9} Write
them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.
This is the most
sacred portion of Scripture to the Jews–especially, verse 4. Jesus quoted it as the “Greatest Commandment”
(Mk. 12:28-30). It is called the Shema[h], derived from
the first word of verse 4, “shema,” meaning to “hear.” Oh, how we need to hear the
message of this text. Our very survival
depends upon it.
The implications of
our text our clear. Israel’s future depended upon their understanding and
application of God’s Word. As the nation
stands on the edge of the Promised Land, Moses reminds them that success or
failure depended upon their obedience to the “words of God’s Law.” The key to the success of any family or
nation is to discover and obey the truths of God’s Word. In fact, that is the “Hebrew title” of this
book of the Bible, “These are the words.”
Americas future
depends on Christ-centered, Biblically-based,
families living, loving, and serving together through God’s church. It is clear that the focus must be the
family. Not the church, not the
government–but the family.
The Jews took this
passage very seriously, and quite literally.
Orthodox Jews, even today, will wear phylacteries. Phylacteries are small boxes that hold the Shema,
and a few other verses. They
literally tie them on their hands and feet.
It is not uncommon to find Scripture verses on the doorposts of a Jewish
home (called a “mezuzah, (doorpost)”.
The Scriptures are a central fixture in an Orthodox Jewish home. The home was the center of religious
training in Israel, not the Temple.
Over and over again,
I have heard fathers say: “Well, I raised them in church.” God never asked us
to “raise our kids in church, but to raise our kids at home!” America needs better coaches in the home,
not more spectators in the Church.
The Bible clearly
shows us in this text what the key to a successful family is—an obedient father
providing for the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of his family.
1. First, A great father gives his family
DIRECTION (v 1)
(Deu 6:1) These are the
commands, decrees and laws the LORD your God directed me to teach you to
observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess,
This was a new day in
the life of Israel. God knew they needed “direction” as they passed into
a new phase. They had never been this
way before. They needed a “guide.”
Fathers, your
children need your direction if they are going to “cross over into an unknown
land of adulthood.” Our children have never been adults, and they need
Dad to point the way. Before you can provide direction for the family, you have
to discover the way yourself. Dads, you
must first be living according to verse 5, yourself:
(Deu 6:5) Love the LORD
your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your
strength.
There is little
chance your family will ever discover the abundant living of the Promised Land,
unless parents give their families direction, by providing them an example—a
leader—to follow. Love for God is more easily caught, than taught! Families need direction, but they also need
consistent, godly
2. INSTRUCTION
(6:6-7)
(Deu 6:6-7) These
commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. {7} Impress them
on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along
the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
Children need
boundaries. Children especially need
“religious boundaries.” I’ve heard
parents say, “I’m not going to force religion on my children. I’m going to wait until they are old enough
to decide for themselves.”
This is absolutely
nonsense. Do you say, “I’m not going keep them playing in the street.” I’m going to let them decide when they are
older if playing in traffic is something they want to do.” Our children will be physically, emotionally,
and spiritually endangered if we do not give them the instruction they
need in life. A child’s success as an
adult is greatly affected by the instruction he or she receives when
they are young.
(Prov 22:6) Train a child
in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
I like what a good
friend shared with me once. “If we do not NIP the twigs of sin in the bud when our children are
young, we’ll have to use a chain saw to clear the brush when they are older!”
Don’t wait until you
need a chain-saw to clear the rubbage from your child’s life, Begin their instruction
early. Children need to begin to learn the Scriptures from the time they
are in the cradle. Immerse your home in
Christian teaching.
3. Children need PROTECTION (7:1-6)
"I cannot
think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection."--Sigmund Freud. I’m not big fan of Sigmund Freud, but even a
broken clock gives the right time twice a day.
We need to read ahead
to see another need a child has that a Father can meet. They need protection.
(Deu 7:1-6) When the LORD
your God brings you into the land you are entering to possess and drives out
before you many nations--the Hittites, Girgashites, Amorites, Canaanites,
Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites, seven nations larger and stronger
than you-- {2} and when the LORD your God has delivered them over to you and
you have defeated them, then you must destroy
them totally. Make no treaty with them,
and show them no mercy. {3} Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your
daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, {4} for they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods, and the Lord's anger will burn
against you and will quickly destroy you.
Sin brings
destruction. The world is hostile to a child’s spiritual development. Evil is “stronger” than a child’s will-power,
and must be “totally destroyed,” or it will end in a child’s “destruction.” A
child has the right to expect certain things from the father: food, clothing,
and shelter are the “big three.” But, they need much more than physical
shelter. They need “spiritual
shelter.”
The world is not a
safe place for kids. They need protection--not
just protection from the cold of the world, but from a world that can harsh,
bitter, and frightening spiritually. A
world that will devour your children if you do not protect them from its
hazards.
Young children, like
baby birds, need your protection from the hazards of life. Children need direction, instruction,
protection and they also need
4. CORRECTION
Kids will be kids–you
can count on it! You can direct your kids, instruct your kids,
and protect your kids, but sooner or later you must correct your
kids! The Bible is very clear:
“If
we spare the rod, we spoil the child” (Prov.
13:24) Proverbs talks about this in several places.
PLEASE DO NOT
HEAR WHAT I AM NOT SAYING
. . . These verses
are not a license to “beat the daylights out of your children.”Correction
must NEVER—THAT IS NEVER–be associated with anger.
A
firm hand and a hard heart make a terrible and volatile combination. Be firm, but gentle. Make sure you send the
right message when you correct your children. I read recently about A LITTLE BOY in
the second grade who was complaining to a classmate. Billy confided in his friend, “Tommy, I’m
going crazy at home! If I make noise,
they spank me, and if I’m quiet, they take my temperature!” Children need
correction—but make sure you send
the right message.
Correction is about LOVE!
That leads right into
my final admonition to fathers. I’ve saved the best for last. No coach ever
attains greatness without a passion for his players. A great DAD must give his
kids direction, instruction, protection, and correction, But, above all,
great Dad’s give their wife and kids
5. AFFECTION (1Cor 13:8)
“Love
NEVER fails.”
What is the number
one complaint when I talk to wives about their husbands, or children about
their fathers in a counseling session?
It is probably not what you think.
The number one complaint ISN’T that “dad is too hard on us!” Children of even the most domineering father
can accept his rules and regulations.
The number one problem ISN’T that “dad is selfish.” Most children I’ve talked to have as much as
they want or have learned to live with what they have. The number one problem ISN’T “dad does
not love me.” Most wives I’ve met and
children I’ve talked to say, “I know Dad loves me.” The number one complaint about husbands and
fathers–men–, is, “Dad does not express his love.” Dad doesn’t say, “I love
you.”
Many children grow up
and leave the nest without ever hearing their father say, “I love you!” Wives and children need to hear those words,
backed up by a man’s actions—“I love you!”
Dad, your home needs your affection.
You may fail at many things, but if you do not fail at giving your
family your affection—you will coach a winning team. Above all—your family needs your
affection. They need to “see
it,” but they also need to “hear it.”
There is no game more important than the “game of life.” There’s not “next season” in the game of life. It is one giant “Super Bowl.” To have success in any game, teams need good coaches.
There is no game more important than the “game of life.” There’s not “next season” in the game of life. It is one giant “Super Bowl.” To have success in any game, teams need good coaches.
A few years ago TWO
RIVAL HIGH SCHOOL FOOTBALL teams were locked in combat in the final
champion-ship game. Each team’s
reputation was on the line. The home
team was backed up to its own 3 yard lines with time running out. The score was tied. On the next play, the first string
quarterback was sacked at the line of scrimmage. Worse yet, his ankle was sprained. The second string quarterback was out with
the flu. The coach had no choice but to
play a freshman quarterback who had never been in a high school game. The coach hoped that he could keep the game
tied, and the first string quarterback could go back in the game during overtime,
and save the home team’s reputation.
He sent the rookie
into the game with explicit instructions.
The coach said, “Run 22-e twice, and then punt.” The coach did not want to take the chance of
giving the other team the ball with time left for a possible score. So, in goes the rookie. He calls “22-e.” The team runs the play and to the surprise of
everyone they gained 45 yards. They were
now on the 48 yard line. In the huddle,
the rookie quarterback follows his coaches orders and calls 22-e. This time the team gains 49 yards. It is last down. One second remains on the timer. They are on the 3 yard line. This would be their last play. The rookie follows orders. He takes the snap, drops back, and punts the
ball into the end zone. The game ends in
a tie. The team will go on to lose in overtime.
When the rookie comes
off the field after punting from the 3 yard line, the coach is red with
rage. The rookie could not understand
it. He followed the coaches orders to
the letter. Barely able to talk the
coach stammers, “Son, what in the world was going through your mind on that
last play?” The rookie quarterback
answered, “The only thing going through my mind was, ‘man do we ever have a
dumb coach!”
America has a
coaching problem. We need men who will give their families the direction, instruction, protection, correction, and
affection that they need to be physically, emotionally, and spiritually
successful in the game of life.
I was fortunate to have a great coach for a father, both figuratively
AND literally. For about 11 seasons I
played little league baseball in Moundsville, WV. Little League in Moundsville rivals in
excitement anything you would see at the college level. It was almost a religion.
My Dad was my little league coach.
Dad had been a semi-pro baseball player but gave up his aspirations of
playing in the Big Leagues to marry his high school sweetheart -- my mom. Dad died peacefully in his sleep at the age
of 78 in January of 2010.
I’m not much of a poet, but I wrote a poem many years ago in honor of
my Dad and how as my life-time coach he laid the foundation for any success
I've had in life. This poem honors my
Dad, and all those dads who have and are "coaching their children to love
God and others through service to the Lord Jesus Christ."
Dad was my coach.
He taught me how
to face a curve-ball pitcher;
But more than
that,
He taught me how
to face the curves life throws at you.
Dad was my coach.
He taught me to
run the bases with speed and agility.
But more than
that,
He taught me how
to run the race of life with diligence and integrity.
Dad was my
coach.
He taught me the
art of stealing bases,
But more than
that,
He taught me that
lying, cheating, and stealing were wrong.
Dad was my coach.
He taught me how
to catch a fly ball.
But more than
that,
He taught me how
to catch a vision for what I could become in life.
Dad was my coach,
He taught me the
fundamentals of the game.
But more than
that,
He taught me the
fundamentals of living.
Dad was my
coach—But, he was more than that!
Great coaches produce
great teams–whether it be baseball, basketball, football, swimming, hockey, or
what-ever sport you choose. Great
coaches produce great teams. But, the
greatest coach of all is the father that guides his family to spiritual
victory.
Let me end with a Special
Note to Fathers:
*
I know that there are men here today that would love a chance to go back and
change the way you raised your family. I KNOW I WOULD. You can’t do that. I’m sure you did the best
you knew how when raising your kids.
You
can still contribute greatly to the youth of our community. by becoming an
example to the youth of our church.
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